Dealing with Other People’s Negativity

Question: Do you ever feel that way? Where people look at you funny because of your zest for life? If so how do you deal with it?                                 SLM

Frank’s Answer:
As per usual, great question asked at the perfect time for all.

I find it ironic that in a world where everyone is trying so hard to be different via , tattoos, cars, designer apparel, etc. that where we really are different, our personalities, live view and joy levels, judgment finds us everywhere, sometimes especially with our friends and family.

So to answer your first question, YES, SOMETIMES IT FEELS LIKE EVERY MOMENT I’M FIGHTING OTHERS’ NEGATIVE PERSPECTIVE and I do get tired (as I want to elevate them!)

Once you become very clear in your thinking and respect for your inner compass it becomes much easier to see the real truth in terms of “quality of life”/”joy of living”.
I won’t tell you specifically what you need to do but I can share my perspective of how I have made some sense of it for myself.

Be totally honest with who you are at all times, be clear on what your values are and then honour them as if your life depended on it because it does. Once we are clear with and accept who we are we are ok with everyone else’s judgments as we realize it’s “their unresolved demons/issues” causing the judgment.

“They”, those who live a life of quiet misery and little joy are very numerous! Realize that your joy ANNOYS them because they want it but can’t see how it is possible and are too far away. If you are in Joy (#1 on the emotional Scale) and they are in Fear/Despair/Hopelessness/Powerlessness/Depression (#22) you might as well be different animal species from different solar systems communicating,

They can only access fear while you are at a totally alien vibration level which can be jarring for them (and they are jarring to you as well for the same reasons!). They often think you are a POLYANNA or worse a cultist!
The following is on my vision board:

People Who Are Wrong
X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X
X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X
X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X X

x= Lots

Society is dysfunctional with ridiculous consumeristic, superficial values (coming from lack and fear via the media concentrated negative energy beam), so that does not present a good role model! Begin finding more positive people to be around. join some Meetup groups in what you are interested in. A great one in Toronto is the Soul City meetup run by Steve Fleming.

Imagine you arrive in a new land and everyone there has had their legs smashed with clubs so they are all limping and that is the way it is. You arrive with your perfect legs and keep telling people how great having 2 perfect legs is! Soon they club you and you limp as they do! You need to find people who love to walk tall and free and real, because that is you.

I have a healthy amount of cynicism about society and what is right, I’m a pretty big defecation disturber!

Once you realize that they are so miserable and unwilling to look at life as a joyful adventure, you have a choice:

  1. Try to change them (doesn’t work),
  2. Avoid or eliminate them (they’re everywhere!),
  3. Just be your true happy self and notice the joy you do bring to those open to it and how you attract more joyful people, events and experiences (like attracts like).

I have a mantra of “living like a zebra among horses”. Did you know the zebra has never successfully been domesticated like a horse? Man has  tried for centuries, can’t do it, character is too strong! The zebra isn’t better than the horses, just different. In its savannah environment it is invisible and safe. What is your safe savannah? People who are joyful already, seek them out and allow them to find you as this newsletter has done.

To live an extraordinary, fulfilling life is an act of raw courage and defiance, don’t push up on what you don’t want! Don’t come from a place of “righteousness”, “they’re wrong!” that builds anger/resistance. Come from love and see that they are lost and you must be the change you seek!

From my upcoming blockbuster book, “Cobra in the Closet” I describe a successful life:

  1. Full health and vibrancy allowing me full choice in my life. You can’t have anything else without this, every day get fit to access all people and opportunities with boundless energy!
  2. Joy in every moment, regardless of the outer reality, I choose joy as my operating level, life is supposed to be fun and light!
  3. Passions that feed your very soul including Human needs #5 and #6, Growth and Contribution to others
  4. Financial resources giving you choice to do what you want, when you want with who you want.

Develop a powerful Life Purpose Statement, reason why you are here that will help you be grounded.
Mine is: “I am the knight in shining armor slashing through people’s lies and deception!”

If your life feels joyful, it is. Have the courage and authenticity to remove those whose lives are miserable and want you down too. I pity those who question me in this way as they are really far from any type of sustainable path and it’s not a good place to reside.

Hope that helps!

 

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