“Smooth” is For Scotch and Skin . Not Life!


             This week was full of contrasts (contrast is an Abraham Hicks term for “feeling down”, (it also signifies the differences between the emotions) that challenged me but ultimately made me stronger. One of the days was a classic, “Everything that can possibly wrong will” type of day. It culminated with the forgetting and loss of my cell phone.

           The next day was the complete opposite where “Everything I touched turned to gold” I feel I had 100% responsibility in both. When we are down (#9-#22 on the ES) we attract other “down ” thoughts, ideas and experiences. when we are up we attract great ideas people and circumstances.

            Most people’s objective/goal in life is to have a “smooth” life, one in which there isn’t much turbulence or massive up and down swings. What could be better than a smooth life right? Having this approach to life is impossible for the simple reason that life is filled with uncertainty, variety and complexities. To use a metaphor, life is like the ocean. An ocean is powerful, stable, serene, filled with abundance but also has nasty storms, currents and waves that can crush weak ships.

Those people who attempt (it’s impossible!) to live a “smooth life” without too many contrasts often end up much more often “crushed to pieces” by the ocean which doesn’t play by “their” rules.  Life can throw you a multi-million dollar lottery ticket, a surprise and wanted baby, a divorce, deadly disease and a friend’s passing all in the same breath all on a sunny day.

What to do? The first step is to be realistic that life is an ocean and that the objective is to live with full freedom, passion and joy (this means building a ship (life) able to maneuver and handle the turbulence. The only way to do that is to enjoy the voyage by living passionately. Realizing that the contrasts are what make life so breath taking. You couldn’t enjoy the highs if there weren’t lows. Life is also like the ocean in that it has cycles and seasons. I believe our passions and passion for life help us ride out the storms and enjoy the placid days equally. What will you do to prepare your “life” ship for the reality of life’s ocean? Realizing that life is a wild ride is half the battle!

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3 Questions to Ask Yourself When Others Doubt Your Small Business

      In the theme of my upcoming seminar on “Expanding Your Business and Prosper” this week I share with you some questions to ask yourself when others doubt you (I know that never happens to YOU right? Haha!1.    How might you be doubting yourself?It’s always easier to blame others, the government, the economy, the competition than looking into ourselves. Focus on what you can control (what YOU do, not anyone outside you). Be honest with yourself, do you really believe in yourself and what you are doing? Is your mission powerful and inspirational for you and others. A weak mission statement can really hurt you and your business. If you doubt yourself so will others. Doubt is #13 on the ES (Above worry and below disappointment)

2.    What are your concerns about stepping out of your comfort zone and creating your business? It’s always helpful to get specific about how your thinking may create a mental environment of self doubt. Is your language weak, do you beat yourself up for mistakes? Running a small business requires vision and persistence, to ensure you have those you must really love what you are doing AND believe in it.

3.   On a Scale of 1-10 (1 Not Committed at all to 10 Fully Committed), How Committed are you to success in this business? Successrequires commitment. Before you see any results. This is a difficult concept for many new business owners, and is one of the key aspects of entrepreneurship that my clients and I work with in coaching.

By looking within, we usually make the connection between what’s showing up in “other people” and how it is always a mirror to what’s inside us. Once you truly “get” that YOU are responsible for everything happening, you get a rush of freedom moving like a deep cleansing breath through your body. “Aha, it was me all along!” When you realize this, you suddenly have choices about what you prefer to think, feel and attract. Remember, “thoughts that are emotionalized are magnetized!” Our new choices cause the Law of Attraction to match us up with entirely new people and experiences. Often, co-collaborators pop out of the woodwork.

As you consciously and deliberately change your vibration (a skill anyone can practice) you’re no longer a match to “doubt”. And surprise, others don’t doubt you!

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Sean

“I was just about prepared to surrender to a safe life of mediocrity, when I reached out to Frank for some help. In less than four months I quit the secure but dead-end job I’ve held for over decade, started my own consulting business, and completed my graduate degree. Now I feel I am destined for a great life – for great things! Thanks, Frank, for believing in me and, most of all, for helping me believe in myself!”                                                                                                   Sean, MCIP, RPP

Converting Scarcity Perspectives to Abundant Ones

Turning Scarcity Perspectives to Abundance!

      As I work diligently to bring you my next book, “Take It!” (Avail. Aug. 2012), I wanted to share part of a chapter where I reframe some scarcity perspectives into abundance perspectives. My whole idea here is that our interpretations of events are often EVEN MORE important than the events themselves. Enjoy!

Scarcity: “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”

Abundance: “There is more than enough money for great people and ideas when I allow!”

Scarcity: “You need to go to school to have any hope of getting a good job and security”

Abundance: “What creates security is passion for what you do, and the fact you know you are unique and can tap that uniqueness to help the world.”

Scarcity: “There’s not enough money to get you the present you really wanted.”

Abundance: “We gave you this gift coming from love and joy.”

Scarcity: “The plant closed, daddy lost his job, we have to sell the house”

Abundance: “The plant closed, daddy lost his job and now he gets to do what he really wants and we are also moving to make a new start!”

Scarcity: “Find a good woman/man soon as you can’t meet anyone when you are over the hill/ over 40.”

Abundance: “The perfect person is out there for you and will be there when you allow the time and space for them and really like and embrace your authentic, most brilliant self.”

Scarcity: “Be careful when you cross the street.”

Abundance: “Have a blast out there!”

Scarcity: “Don’t talk to strangers.”

Abundance: “The world is your family/playground!”

Scarcity: “Take care!”

Abundance: “Have an adventurous, exciting and empowering day!”

Scarcity: “Don’t say what you think at work, you may get fired!”

Abundance: “Be your true (authentic) self at work!”


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It’s Never “The Man’s” Fault

I met someone at the dog park last week and although it was a one minute interaction it gave me some insight which I will attempt to pass on to you. Here is the conversation I had with “Bill” (name changed to protect the innocent lol!).

Frank: “Hey Bill long time no see, how have you been? Are you still at the Post Office?”

Bill: “Yeah, and I really hate it!”

Frank: “Well, Bill, you’re the only one who can resolve that right?” My attempt to empower him.

Bill: “Yeah…..I guess….I do have some choices….”

Frank: “Absolutely!”

Bill:  It’s all because of the man!”

Frank: “Oh, it’s the man’s fault?!”

Bill: “Yeah, you have to watch out for the man!!! He’s everywhere!”

Frank: “Take care Bill.”

This interaction is interesting as it points out how many people, don’t take responsibility for becoming the navigator of their life ship. Bill blamed “the man”, meaning authority, big business, the establishment, etc.. Blame is #   on the emotional scale just above discouragement and below worry. These vibrations attract other similar feelings, events and people, not good!

I would say taking responsibility for all the events and results in our lives is one of the single biggest differences between winners and also-rans. Winners always take full responsibility for everything. Think about it, once you take responsibility you also take control of the steering wheel of your life. I hope you love to drive (your life) as much as I do!

“The man”, the economy, your boss, spouse or the Government are not responsible for where you are. Only one person is, you. Take responsibility and watch your life merge into the fast lane! I challenge you to take full responsibility for everything, it’s very empowering (#1 on the Emotional Scale).

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