Take That Shot!

In searching for a topic worthy of the newsletter this week, I borrowed from my newest book all about not only accepting but embracing your truest self, warts and all. It is called “Take It! Living and Loving a Courageously Authentic Life.” Which will be available nationwide in September.

Wayne Gretzky (hockey Hall of Famer widely considered one of the best hockey players to ever live) said, “You miss 100% of the shots you don’t take”. It seems so obvious in sports but is also extremely applicable to our lives. What are the devastating and life-limiting side-effects of NOT TAKING (ANY?) SHOTS?

THE COSTS OF NOT TAKING A SHOT

  1. You miss all the opportunities (because you chose not to take a shot)
  2. You miss the learning and growth of trying, failing and persevering to take shots.
  3. Your ego gets to smugly hide behind a carefully crafted lie, “If we did try we would succeed!”
  4. The world doesn’t get the benefit of your “shot”, whatever the impact that would be it is certainly more than not doing anything.
  5. You don’t inspire anyone else to take shots around you. Those who regularly go for it inspire others by their actions (the main concept in Take-It!).

“Be the change you want to in the world.”  Ghandi

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Summer 2012: Your Best Ever!

As I was preparing my men’s circle last week I created a few questions to get the men pumped up about their summer of 2012. Well, we are 2 days in with 88 days to go and what will you do to make this a summer to end all summers?

            When I coach, I often use little “tricks” (techniques) to shift the perspective of my clients, which allows them to come up with new, fresher and more empowering viewpoints on their existing challenges. One of those is the future or past time warp where I have them see their situation from the future as if it has already happened.

Here is the question I had them share with the group, I urge you to try it yourself!

“It is September 1st, 2012 and the summer of 2012 turned out to be my best summer ever! I really grabbed my life and did _________________ and  _____________________ and ________________ and __________________ . I also visited ________________ and _________________ .

I had 2 major challenges this summer, _______________________ and ____________________ . I overcame these challenges by _______________________.

I’m really proud of myself.”

 

Hopefully that really brought you some clarity and inspiration in terms of what you want for yourself this summer. All I will add is have fun, the summer solstice is but a brief visitor! Have a great summer.

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Cutting the Cord & Less IS More

     Last weekend was a new experience for me as I rode my motorcycle on roads that tore the Northern Alleghany Forest in Pennsylvania mountains to ribbons in the company of my equally motorcycle-crazy cousin. Little to no traffic (the area is 3 hours from any major cities and has little to offer the cottaging crowd) made this a mecca for motorized 2-wheel exploration. The people we met were all exceedingly friendly and helpful, very nice. The 3 days communing with nature on my trusted mechanical steed opened a whole new world for me that I want to explore more, MUCH more(Passion, #2 on the Emotional Scale).
I turned my mobile phone off Friday and opened it late Sunday, and my world didn’t crumble! LOL! Being away from my regular life circumstances, people and activities was an alluring and intoxicating elixir allowing me to see what is important more clearly. I made a commitment to my self to do it more often and differently each time. This world is a big

What is your getaway from the everyday (sounds like an ad :)) that allows you to gain perspective in your life? Cut the cord, less is more!

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Avoiding the Dating Games

Question: “Everyone is playing games dating, I don’t even know the rules! Help!”

Frank’s Answer:  This may or may not be true, if you think it is true then IT IS for you, and you need to change your perspective (via reframing). This is a so-called global belief, like “All___ x people are like ____”. This comment definitely comes from a place of lack as in, “there are no good people left”. The universe is abundant. The fact that you mention rules suggests you are looking for a way to successfully deal with the frustration of inauthenticity and deception going on. The fact these “games” bother you suggests you are a person of integrity and honesty, which are great values.

The only thing you can control is who YOU are being and how you see and do things, nothing else (you don’t control the weather, economy, your boss, your partner etc.). The definition of suffering is trying to control people or other things outside ourselves. I would begin by realizing that any global statement like the one above is rarely true because there are so many different (abundance) people out there. The fact is in terms of the Law of Attraction, Like attracts Like. By having minimum standards of conduct (essentially loving and valuing yourself) you will naturally not put up with such gamesmanship and will attract higher quality people. If someone is acting in a way that is out of integrity you could call them on it or decide that those aren’t the type of games you want to play and stick to it. Maybe change the environments you are meeting a certain “type” of person if you see patterns repeating. Always realize we choose what we tolerate and can change.

 

Move on Or Stay?

Question:  My partner and I don’t seem to connect anymore. What should/can I can do, or is it just time to move on/leave?

Frank’s Answer:  It’s too easy to only blame the other person. A better way to approach this is to look at if you are happy with who you are being in the relationship? If yes, then you need to get clear if both your paths are still aligned. I find values a strong predictor of relationship success. Not carbon copy values, but enough commonalities so you feel you share similar views on life’s major areas. At least have respect for each other.

If respect is gone and resentment has settled in and you no longer have more good times than bad, then re-evaluate if this fits YOUR minimum relationship expectations (what you would minimally want in a new partner). If not, being single (a little lonely at first but also excitement of potential new mate) is always better than in a bad relationship (feeling alone with a partner).

Communication is key here, you want to explore the topic in a courageously authentic fashion so you are transparent and are not holding any important facts or feelings back from your partner. Once you take responsibility for your inputs of the relationship and communicate clearly, then the right decision will become clearer. Until honest dialogue happens both partners may be operating from false/mistaken assumptions about the other. Clarity brings conscious choice.

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Frogs

A close friend sent me this, exactly when I needed it of course (the universe always provides)! Enjoy!

 Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs….. Who arranged a running competition.

 The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower

 A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants. …

 The race began. Honestly, no one in crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. You heard statements such as: “Oh, WAY too difficult!!’ 

‘”They will NEVER make it to the top” or “Not a chance that they will succeed.. The tower is too high” 

The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one.Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher…. The crowd continued to yell,  “It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!’ 

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up  But one continued higher and higher and higher….
This one wouldn’t give up!    At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top

THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?
A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal

It turned out…. That the winner was DEAF!!!! 

Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic. …   because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you — the ones you have in your heart!

Always think of the power words haveBecause everything you hear and read will affect your actions ThereforeALWAYS be…. POSITIVEAnd above allBe DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!

Always think :God (the Universe) and I can do this!”

Pass this message on to 5 ‘tiny frogs’ you care about. Give them some motivation!! !

 Most people walk in and out of your life……but FRIENDS Leave footprints in your heart.

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Celebrating One Year of  “Living”!

            It is June already! Wow! It was exactly 1 year ago (with 18 recipients) when I committed to bring you Canada’s first and only “Weekly Law of Attraction” cup of inspiration. I launched last year under the name “Quantum Leap Living” and rebranded along with my new company name “2BFRANK Living”  in March of this year. Close to 200 of you receive it currently!

            I am very excited and proud of this accomplishment and aim to make this newsletter a great source of ideas and inspiration for another year! For those of you who are new(er) to the newsletter you can even search by topic (on the right side of the page under “Search by Topic” the 46 odd entries on my site at: http://www.quantumleapcoach.ca/blog.

 Remember: Success = Decision + Action + Persistence!

 8 Tips To Leverage the Law of Attraction in Your Small Business

        I gave my “Expand Your Business and Prosper” workshop with Soul City last Wednesday and thought I’d share the big picture points with you.

1)      Get clear on why you are in business and share that to everyone, develop a mission statement

2)      Solve people’s problems generously, uniquely and personally (be real)

3)      Follow your dream, heart and intuition, (vs your logic)

4)      Always come from abundance (not scarcity) and value what you do

5)      Build an email database and communicate regularly via newsletter (Mailchimp is free and excellent)

6)      Get organized, prioritize and minimize interruptions by chunking tasks

7)      Set SMART Goals (Specific, Measurable, Accountable, Resonant and Thrilling)

8)      Have fun and be authentic!

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