“If you want to make God Laugh…just tell him your plans!”

         This is an old Jewish maxim that came across my desk this week and I must say, it has been bouncing around in my head and seems just funny at first but seems so relevant.

         So many course and gurus will bore you to tears with trite phrases such
as , “what gets planned gets done”. Of course some planning is required, or else we are adrift. But in my humble opinion,  successful people spend more time “doing” , “being” and “adjusting/adapting” than spending the lion’s share of their time strictly “planning”. The reason this stops so many in their tracks is that, even the best laid plans fail to account for the following:

  1. A plan is a limited perspective based on (often) faulty data
  2. Life is a beautiful cornucopia of often (seemingly) random events out of our control
  3. Adaptability when a plan is off track separates the successful from the “I’m surviving my life” crowd
  4. Our thoughts, feeling and belief  around what we want (plans) are what create their success (Law of Attraction)

With this in mind a great maxim that seems to work to incorporate “planning” and the Law of Attraction is:

“I want this, OR BETTER!”

           Here’s a powerful example from my life. Over the last 6 months I have been quietly but consistently working on my next book (writing is one of my greatest passions). It is a picture book about the passion for motorcycling. I was about 50% done and similar to Live It!, I wanted it to have human stories that supported my idea that motorcycling is a most beautiful obsession.

My original “plan” was to have multiple separate stories at the beginning and end of each chapter. I put out fliers. Zero stories came in, not one single one! I was not worried as I knew it would work out. Three weeks ago, the universe provided the “OR BETTER”, and it was quite a bit better than my idea in all honesty.

A gentleman contacted me who had quit his accounting job, got divorced and lost his dad to cancer . He decided to ride SOLO from Toronto to Newfoundland (most easterly point in North America)  to Prudhoe Bay, Alaska (most northerly and westerly point in North America) and then straight south to the tip of Argentina (most Southerly point in the Americas). He did 65,000 km (42,000 miles) in 11 months. So the book will now chronicle his adventures will bookend my material in each chapter. If you are curious, here’s his site: http://www.gregsadventure.com/. I am blessed to have him working with me in creating a book for the ages.

I am thrilled and excited as the Universe has provided a much superior solution AGAIN.

So plan, but allow for the Universe to provide “AND BETTER”. You will be surprised.

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Question: “Why are/can relationships be so hard!?” Janice C.

 

Answer:  Firstly, thanks for the question Janice. The Universe can never buck your trend or vibration, so if you think they are hard, then the Universe will match that and give you “hard” relationships.

They are hard when we are unclear who we are, what we want and have limited courage and/or low standards for what we deserve. If we come from fear/insecurity (lack) we will attract that.

They can be hard when we are inauthentic (trying to be what we are not) and trying to please or impress another with our actions. The most important relationship is with ourselves and many people don’t have a good one there. Self criticism and low self esteem should be your number one enemies and they can be dealt with by beginning to monitor and notice your thoughts and language. Just saying, “Relationships are hard.”  Is a very scarcity-based perspective. Your subconscious says, “If they are hard, why would we even want one? We don’t” 

Without really liking yourself you go out meeting people that subconsciously feel like they “complete” you. If you don’t really like yourself and feel incomplete without a partner you attract another “incomplete” partner. Two “incompletes” don’t make a “complete”, they make both more incomplete as both partners are trying to “get” something they need internally (self love) from outside themselves. All this does is augment a chain of pain.

A person with strong personal preferences, clear standards of conduct, a strong sense of self that is being authentic manifests relationships easily and naturally as they are abundant. Relationships can be anything YOU create and want them to be, exciting, fun, etc.

This mindset lets us realize that we can never stand on our head in enough ways to ever please another person. Even if we do, we will lose their respect or attract abuse (victim-victimizer complex).
When we are clear about who we are and what we want, we naturally know what we need and gravitate to relationships and people we can get our needs met with. When this happens with both partners asking and getting their needs met, it is incredible how joyful, natural and passionate relationships become.

So look inside first, fill that up then watch your external (with another) relationships flourish. Otherwise it’s like trying to fill a bucket with a hole in it, no one can ever give you enough love to replace the love you don’t have for yourself.

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2012 A Look At The Year that Was – FOR YOU!

      As a breakthrough coach, my job is to shift clients’ perception of what is to really live their authentic lives. My expertise is around shifting perspectives, great questions allow growth. As I mention in , “Live It!”, “The quality of your life is the quality of the questions you ask yourself”. As we are now officially in December, here are some questions to get some quality answers that will help you grow into 2013.

  

“Quality Questions I Can Ask Myself Now to Grow”

 “Where am I more complete than I was 11 months ago? Where am I less complete?”

“What were the three biggest personal breakthroughs I had this year (career, relationships, health, personal growth, money, balance, physical environment”

“What stopped me from being my Most Brilliant Self this year? Why?”

“If I could re-make one different decision this past year which one would I and why?

“Who have I become this year?”

“Who am I evolving into for 2013?”

“Where are the three biggest opportunities for 2013? Why are they?”

“What’s one thing I want less of in 2013 (example, stress, illness, fear, etc.)?

“What’s one thing I want more of in 2013? (Joy, passion, adventure, etc.)

“How was 2012 a “breakthrough year for me?”

“What am I most proud of that I did/achieved in 2012?”

Want more?, Hire me as your Breakthrough Coach! Now! Then I guarantee, 2013 will be THE YEAR FOR YOU!

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