Frogs

A close friend sent me this, exactly when I needed it of course (the universe always provides)! Enjoy!

 Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs….. Who arranged a running competition.

 The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower

 A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants. …

 The race began. Honestly, no one in crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. You heard statements such as: “Oh, WAY too difficult!!’ 

‘”They will NEVER make it to the top” or “Not a chance that they will succeed.. The tower is too high” 

The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one.Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher…. The crowd continued to yell,  “It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!’ 

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up  But one continued higher and higher and higher….
This one wouldn’t give up!    At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top

THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?
A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal

It turned out…. That the winner was DEAF!!!! 

Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic. …   because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you — the ones you have in your heart!

Always think of the power words haveBecause everything you hear and read will affect your actions ThereforeALWAYS be…. POSITIVEAnd above allBe DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!

Always think :God (the Universe) and I can do this!”

Pass this message on to 5 ‘tiny frogs’ you care about. Give them some motivation!! !

 Most people walk in and out of your life……but FRIENDS Leave footprints in your heart.

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Converting Scarcity Perspectives to Abundant Ones

Turning Scarcity Perspectives to Abundance!

      As I work diligently to bring you my next book, “Take It!” (Avail. Aug. 2012), I wanted to share part of a chapter where I reframe some scarcity perspectives into abundance perspectives. My whole idea here is that our interpretations of events are often EVEN MORE important than the events themselves. Enjoy!

Scarcity: “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”

Abundance: “There is more than enough money for great people and ideas when I allow!”

Scarcity: “You need to go to school to have any hope of getting a good job and security”

Abundance: “What creates security is passion for what you do, and the fact you know you are unique and can tap that uniqueness to help the world.”

Scarcity: “There’s not enough money to get you the present you really wanted.”

Abundance: “We gave you this gift coming from love and joy.”

Scarcity: “The plant closed, daddy lost his job, we have to sell the house”

Abundance: “The plant closed, daddy lost his job and now he gets to do what he really wants and we are also moving to make a new start!”

Scarcity: “Find a good woman/man soon as you can’t meet anyone when you are over the hill/ over 40.”

Abundance: “The perfect person is out there for you and will be there when you allow the time and space for them and really like and embrace your authentic, most brilliant self.”

Scarcity: “Be careful when you cross the street.”

Abundance: “Have a blast out there!”

Scarcity: “Don’t talk to strangers.”

Abundance: “The world is your family/playground!”

Scarcity: “Take care!”

Abundance: “Have an adventurous, exciting and empowering day!”

Scarcity: “Don’t say what you think at work, you may get fired!”

Abundance: “Be your true (authentic) self at work!”


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It’s Never “The Man’s” Fault

I met someone at the dog park last week and although it was a one minute interaction it gave me some insight which I will attempt to pass on to you. Here is the conversation I had with “Bill” (name changed to protect the innocent lol!).

Frank: “Hey Bill long time no see, how have you been? Are you still at the Post Office?”

Bill: “Yeah, and I really hate it!”

Frank: “Well, Bill, you’re the only one who can resolve that right?” My attempt to empower him.

Bill: “Yeah…..I guess….I do have some choices….”

Frank: “Absolutely!”

Bill:  It’s all because of the man!”

Frank: “Oh, it’s the man’s fault?!”

Bill: “Yeah, you have to watch out for the man!!! He’s everywhere!”

Frank: “Take care Bill.”

This interaction is interesting as it points out how many people, don’t take responsibility for becoming the navigator of their life ship. Bill blamed “the man”, meaning authority, big business, the establishment, etc.. Blame is #   on the emotional scale just above discouragement and below worry. These vibrations attract other similar feelings, events and people, not good!

I would say taking responsibility for all the events and results in our lives is one of the single biggest differences between winners and also-rans. Winners always take full responsibility for everything. Think about it, once you take responsibility you also take control of the steering wheel of your life. I hope you love to drive (your life) as much as I do!

“The man”, the economy, your boss, spouse or the Government are not responsible for where you are. Only one person is, you. Take responsibility and watch your life merge into the fast lane! I challenge you to take full responsibility for everything, it’s very empowering (#1 on the Emotional Scale).

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The Entrepreneur’s Dilemma:

QuestionI’m a health care professional and entrepreneur and from time to time I find myself in a rut, questioning my abilities, if I’m doing the right thing, should I do something else…I have a couple of what I think are great personal and career opportunities at the moment, and I want to know what the best way is to stay fresh, energized, enthusiastic about these projects. Also, because they’re entrepreneurial in nature, there’s risk, all types of different risks, financial, personal, opportunity costs and the like. I want to stay energized and passionate about the opportunities while at the same time staying level headed. How do I stay passionate and energized enough to defend my ideas about these opportunities while being open minded and flexible about suggestions/criticisms from others. How do I manage the dilemma of having the fire, but also realistic?                DP

Frank’s Reply:
Firstly, we all get in ruts sometimes, but I would watch my language (as language shapes our experience), call it a “creative break” or a “refocus period”, as if you’ve ever really been stuck in a winter icy rut with your bald tires, tough to get out and the word is powerful for your subconscious mind!

Whenever we tackle something for the first few times we are complete and utterly “lost” and relatively “useless” as we have few reference points or guide points letting us know “proceed you are on the right track” or something similar. I’m hearing a fair amount of enthusiasm (great! Passion #2 on the ES) but also fear (awful feeling #22 on the ES!). Trust your intuition on these “great” opportunities and follow them as far as they feel good to you and motivate you, otherwise put them aside and focus on what’s working.

The best way to feel fresh and energized with these projects is to fully commit all of you to them, don’t hold back (your STUMPS (acronym for Saboteur Trickster Most Pathetic Self in “u”) is telling you to be guarded and not give 100%), don’t listen, do it anyway. Remember it’s not what you do that is important but who you become in the trials and tribulations of trying, failing and dusting yourself off and trying again. Being an entrepreneur is a lonely profession, I know. Thousands of untold invested hours with sometimes zero external money or result to show for it, that’s why many prefer a cushy job, guaranteed income.  The fact you have multiple projects is a great testament to others’ confidence in you and your openness, trust that side of yourself.

As for Realistic VS Passion, they are polar opposites and inversely correlated. As an early stage entrepreneur I would lean 80% passion, 20% realistic as all great breakthroughs were not realistic.
Realistic is for losers and those who work in bean-counter organizations, not us little mice (vs. dinosaur) entrepreneurs. Besides realistic has no vision, juice or power! Passion can sell any idea to anyone.

I would make sure I have well set out goal milestones and these need to be things you know are needed to succeed, but NOT the final result, keep reframing it bigger. Here’s an example from my work.

  • When I first had the idea of Cobra in the Closet project I wanted to write about my client’s progress over 37 days.
  • I had no clear goals in writing other than to capture what was occurring and my evaluation (still in experiment/report mode)
  • Then as I began writing more and more (what I thought were good pages) I realized I loved writing this book and committed to writing a minimum of 3 pages a day in it (with no final target).
  • I soon realized my experiment subject was not playing her “role” as student / coachee at all”. At this point I wanted to quit saying “how can I write a book about coaching her if she doesn’t want to be coached?
  • I realized then, my viewpoint was too small so I reframed it (helped by the journaling in the book I was writing). I reframed it this way:

“I may fail as a coach, Jen may fail as a student but the project succeeds madly!”

This took a lot of pressure off me, and allowed me to continue.

Last point: As an entrepreneur: Other people will criticize and try to discourage you mostly because it is so confronting to have someone go for their dreams when you have not followed yours. Society is hypercritical and small minded. As an entrepreneur, hang with others who are on similar paths as they get it, all others especially close family and friends come from “well-meaning fear” but they steal all our passion and juice and give our STUMPS ammunition. They are dream-stealers….avoid them as it takes too much energy to “defend” as you say. Trust me over time no one will get to you, as you don’t give them an inch, your vibration is so strong and sure, they feel it and buy in!

Good luck let us know how it goes!

What we Focus on Grows

                What we resist persists, what we ignore haunts us no more. It is a common misconception that the more we focus on a problem the faster we resolve it. The Law of Attraction says the complete opposite. I know when I have what I “perceive as negative news” I am tempted to “talk it out” with everyone I know. I have found in the last few years however that what works for me (borrow it if it resonates with you) is to intensely speak to a few people. I find I find my own solutions as I talk it through. Once that initial blast is done however, I give the matter very little additional attention.
I have found that talking about the “negative” only brings more negative thoughts and ideas and very little new insight or better feeling thoughts.  Remember, a negative event is rarely what it seems, and rarely as bad as you make it out to be initially. I love the following little parable I have heard.
“In a long ago time of strife and war, a Chinese man wished his son to have a long and healthy life.
One day his son fell off his horse and broke his leg.
As the city folk learned the “terrible” news, they told the man, “what a terrible thing happened to your son.”
The man replied calmly, “It is not a terrible thing, I don’t know why but I know this will turn out to be a good thing!”
The next day, the army came into town and took away all the men except his son.”
Next time “bad” news “befalls” (we attract all we receive actually) you, tell yourself, this is all meant to be and just because you don’t know why doesn’t mean it’s not for your best. You just don’t see “why” yet.

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May the “Real” Meaning of Christmas Come Forth!

My definition (and hopefully yours!) of Christmas is unlike the media machine version of Cramer’s Mad Money, “BUY!, BUY!, BUY!” consumerism. Here are some of my thoughts on what Christmas means.

1. Connection/Reconnection to Important People to Us:  Family is a big part of that but let’s not forget friends, teachers, doctors and neighbors!

Most importantly though, is don’t forget yourself! You can’t be of any good for others until you take care of yourself, first.

2. Children:  Christmas is the greatest time (but shouldn’t be the only time) to revel in kids’ joy and delight at the spectacle. The colors, smells, tastes, sounds of Christmas are so delectable! I challenge you to “out-revel” and “out-joy” the kids around you, that would be a present to you and everyone around you, I know I will! Remember: “Try is a Lie!” and as Yoda says, “There is do and there is not do, there is no try”. Living full out is a gift you can give yourself every day!

3.. A time for personal and group celebration: To have fun and enjoy the company and presents. Don’t let your body and diet go out the window. Sneak in a salad daily, drink your green drink to stay alkaline and get enough rest. Then you will be the one who got the most out of this jolly but unhealthy period. More energy and vibrancy equals more good moments and being present.

4. Reflection: With less work and more free time, you should ideally take time to reflect on your “personal wins” for this past year (forget disappointments!). A “win” is any time you move the needle towards being your true self, helping others grow, pushing yourself further and digging deeper. Sometimes it means surviving a really difficult time with your dignity and purpose intact. Some years it means not slipping down into the abyss. If you feel like it create some general goals for 2012, don’t put dates on them other than “in 2012”.

5. Toss the New Year’s Resolutions:  They don’t work so avoid them. If it’s important to do in your life, you already know about it, there are 364 other days you can make the change to improve your quality of life (more connected decisions to your life purpose, saying “no” a lot more and not feeling guilty, refocusing on every moment and joy). Any goals you DO set must totally capture your heart, passion and imagination! If not, you are only checking off boxes and won’t succeed. Make 2012 the year you were true to yourself and your values, even if it was unpopular and difficult, that’s character. I challenge you to under (rather than OVER) schedule yourself in 2012, trust me obligations will never leave or decrease, you control time and can say “NO!”.

Enjoy the merriment and I’ll see you on the flip side.

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