What Catapults You Immediately into Your Most Brilliant Self?

        The particularly (unusually) mild winter of 2012 allowed me 2 days riding on my Dakar motorcycle. Oh the pure unadultered joy of riding a motorcycle (forget the cold for just a second, brrr!) was ecstatic for those 2 days. I just thought I’d share that because there are always activities that automatically catapult me into joy, flow and honestly give me my mojo back when it drifts away!

       Some of mine include running trails with my dog in the park, losing myself in Skyrim video game, my remote control monster trucks, writing, speaking, coaching, running men’s groups, a warm tender romantic evening with a partner you love, etc. As you can see I have many things that immediately shift my state to one of utter love, joy, empowerment, passion, appreciation and faith that all is well. When I feel that way, really amazing, innovative and intuitive ideas bubble up and are ready for exploration. What do you have or do that immediately launch  you to that space.

If you don’t have many, that’s your homework. Here’s a quick test: if you wouldn’t do the activity if I gave you 3 perfect health months to live, then it’s not a true passion! Forget costs, practicalities and self-created “thinking small” limitations, do what makes your heart sing. If you don’t know what does that, I challenge you to try one new activity per week for 8 weeks and then come and talk to me about living life as if every moment is your last. Before that, we both have some homework as I need as many of those activities too and practice what I preach by trying a multitude of new things and loving it!


Inner Calm in the Outside Storm and Saying “No” Powerfully

       As I am sitting looking out my 23rd floor penthouse window, the snow is falling in a driving wind. A perfect metaphor for my note this week to you. My building is doing major renovations replacing the existing balconies with new, (debatably) better looking balconies. The jackhammers are wailing outside my window as I sit with ear plugs in my ears a hat on my head and my pets somewhat (understandably) freaked out at the cacophony and powerful vibration. It just happens I’m working a lot more from home this week! Add to all that 2 fire alarms in less than 12 hours. I would completely justified in being frustrated, and raging. The OUTER WORLD (of events and circumstances) is a complete disaster around me here, but here’s the thing, I’m not!

        As I watched the other people in the lobby reacting to their emotions, fears and general vibrations based on the OUTSIDE WORLD, I was very calm, certain and secure in my INNER WORLD (of thoughts and emotions) that ALL IS WELL. I’m somewhat surprised at how well I’m reacting to all this disruption. Once you really, really, REALLY realize that pushing against that which you don’t control doesn’t change the situation, in fact it aggravates your vibration as “what you focus on grows”. Don’t get me wrong, I will be leaving ground zero for a few hours this afternoon but overall, calm reigns. I challenge you to really start noticing your (over) reactions to the OUTSIDE WORLD, and remain calm and centered in your INSIDE WORLD. Yoga is great and all but why not always have access to that calm, still place in every moment of your life? Now that’s freedom!

I got a call today from someone who I have been trying to begin a project with for 14 months. He finally had a project for me worth a fair amount of money that I would have literally jumped at as little as 2 months ago. It felt great to turn the project down and telling him that, “I don’t feel it in my heart anymore and all MY projects are taking off and I want to keep working on those!” I had to be truthful with him and it was a relief. Living authentically is a skill like any other. He reacted very well to my assertion and wished me luck as I did him.

Challenge: What will you say “NO” to (to pursue what really jazzes you) powerfully this next week AND feel great about it!



Your Job is to Ask!

       As this ridiculously mild March weather has made my apartment rather warm with the patio quarantined and barricaded for repairs. I set off to purchase a trusty floor mode fan at my local giant megabox home improvement center. As I visited one place, apparently their winter clearout was in full swing with no fans. Off to the second store where only one remained in a battered and re-taped box. Normally I would just fork over the $18 and head home. Not today though as my inner deal hound smelled a discount opportunity.

       My first reaction was, “You don’t want to be one of those people!”. You know, the never satisfied always looking for a deal, pain the you know what. Then the wise me chimed in and said, “No, the box is battered and bruised, let’s try to save a few bucks, this might be fun!” As I approached the customer service desk, I read the button on the lady behind the counter, “WE ARE EMPOWERED!”, so I asked for a discount.

As she grabbed the phone to call another associate, I asked her, “Hey aren’t you empowered?”  She smiled and said, “Apparently not enough!” After about 5 minutes and another associate I got a $4 discount on the $18 fan, an over 20% discount that I would have never gotten if I didn’t ask. I felt triumphant as I left realizing that in this life you get what you ask for not a penny more.

I challenge you this week to ask for more of your life, who knows it might be worth a lot more than $4!