“It’s Off My Radar Screen”

If we liken our lives and events in our lives as all occurring on a large 100 meter (300 feet) radius. Our visibility at any time is like a fog-induced 10 foot radius around us.

This is important as we all know hindsight is 20/20. How many times do you look back at events in your life and see that something/someone completely unseen and unplanned came into your life (on your radar) and created a chain event that transformed your life path completely.

The event was “off your radar” but found its way to you because of the vibration you were putting out to the universe. Thoughts are vibrational energy and bring people and events into your radar from “off your radar”. These are far from “random” events, you attracted them with your thoughts. Remember, we become and experience what we think of most of the time.

How to use this:  Most people spend their lives worrying about what is in the 10 feet around them, (on their radar). They see career/work problems, relationship issues, health concerns, etcetera, etcetera. This attracts more issues, people and circumstances that match worry/fear.  A better approach would be to say and believe, “Right now I can’t see how X will be resolved, it’s off my radar, but I know a solution will come!”

This is powerful because a) it makes you feel better,  which attracts what you want, b) it allows you to believe the world is benevolent (not fearful) and will bring you the best, so you are happier which brings more great things.

I urge you to begin admitting you HAVE NO/ZERO idea what’s coming, it’s off your radar.

Here’s an example from my life. Two weeks ago a very important person to create my success was very much unknown to me, off my radar. I went out on a Saturday night on a feeling I had to go out even though I was comfy on the couch with my love. We met an amazing couple we are having lunch with this weekend. The gentleman was a powerful business person from Dubai franchising businesses here in North America. He referred me to someone who really “gets” what I am all about and has a burning desire to help me succeed. Not only that he is an amazing person that I really like. I’ll tell you more about him soon.

You and I are not that smart that we know what is coming, even if you can’t see how something will work out, keep the faith (#4 on the ES), a solution is on your radar screen of you are feeling good. Your only job: feel good all the time.

Additionally, if you are looking for an opportunity that allows you to learn and share great information like this, we should talk, I am surrounded by some amazingly helpful people.



From the very knowledgeable Wikipedia (how did we live without it!?):

Synchronicity is the experience of two or more events that are apparently causally unrelated or unlikely to occur together by chance, yet are experienced as occurring together in a meaningful manner.

When we are vibrating at very high levels (#4 to #1 on the Emotional Scale:  #4, Positive Expectation or belief, faith, #3: Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness, #2: Passion, #1: Appreciation/Empowerment/Freedom/Joy/Love) seemingly “magical” events, people and circumstances occur. Statistically highly improbable events keep happening.To those around us it seems absolutely outlandish. To those regularly at those emotional levels they begin to seem like “life as normal”. Here are a few examples:

1. I am helping a client launch a global women’s support and help group with a very particular name, a name you rarely hear. As I was working with another client I dug up a sheet from 4 years ago describing just that term. I am pretty confident I never saw that sheet in my binder in that long. I am thrilled, enthused and passionate about supporting this.

2.       At the Midnight in Paris (http://www.meetup.com/Midnight-in-Paris/) event two weekends ago, Paul was playing one of his 80’s personally composed songs on the piano beautifully (passion, freedom, joy). He could not hear the radio, but a few of us others could. His piano playing over those 5-8 minutes seemed to perfectly fit in with a random song on the radio, very freaky. We asked him after if he was matching the music playing and he looked at us blankly, “What music, this is my song!” When we told him he said at a cottage once he was playing music and the crickets began chirping in harmony. Mother nature knows a good thing when she hears it!

 3.       About a month ago I sent my beloved to get some popcorn, Nibs and Coke (I have junk cravings too!!!). She was chatting happily with people in line. As it came to her turn, she went to pay and the cashier said, “It’s been paid for, the people before you gave me $25 and said to pay for your stuff and to keep the change as a tip!” Pay it forward anyone?


A Life of Courageous Authenticity!

We all want it, the media parades it to us but so many find it very difficult to achieve: What is it?

A Life  of Courageous Authenticity

We all wear masks of inauthenticity, identifying ourselves with other people. We don’t even know who we are, what we are doing and why we are doing it. We don’t know what we don’t know. From our childhood we’ve developed values and behaviours to feel accepted by others and to fit in. Our egos want to protect us from feelings of isolation.  These fearful masks disguise our true greatness, uniqueness and connection to our own humanity. Our Most Brilliant Selves are stifled beneath the façade.



Once we become courageously authentic, our whole life is unveiled by our ongoing transformation.

This book will launch you forward and guide you to embrace your ultimate truth:


  • Learn to create powerful new thoughts and behavior patterns while overwriting false self-limiting beliefs.
  • Enhance your vibration by adopting an abundance perspective
  • Learn to live your unique truth and love yourself deeply
  • Enjoy real life stories of authenticity and quotes to inspire you
  • Self-mentor with exercises that help clarify your values, create your life purpose and build your life’s vision


Once you understand, accept and then love your courageous authentic self, you will rise above your fears, and a new passionate and permanent quality of life is yours. This is is not a Practice Life!


Live It! Your Courageosuly Authentic Life” My latest book, allowing you to discover, harness and develop your unique superpower: your unique courageous authenticity! NOW AVAILABLE !





How to Get Market/Date Ready

Reader Question

This week, I thought I’d share a question I answered for one of our readers.

QUESTION: “I’m still upset/heartbroken over my past relationship(s). How (and when?) do I get “market-ready” to date?” JC

Frank: The simple answer JC, you’re ready when you are ready! What’s the rush anyway? That being said, everyone is different. You are ready when the idea of going out with someone new is very appealing. Too many people the fear being alone and then start dating coming from a lacking place. Anything coming from fear/lack is not a good perspective and will attract other fearful/lacking people.

When you’ve done some inner work towards getting to know and love yourself you will be ready. Many people don’t love (or even like) themselves and look to a relationship to fill up what they are missing. Two low self-esteem people do not a good couple make! Inadequate + inadequate = More inadequate! And they trigger each other’s unresolved “baggage” together making a mess.

When you become single after a relationship (never mind a heartbreaker!) you need time to get to know what the new (and improved), latest version of you likes and wants. Many people right out of a relationship feel rejected, dejected, unworthy (unworthiness is #21 on the ES). They feel less than complete and feel lost. A good way to soften is to look for all the gifts the relationship gave you, who YOU became because of it. You are VERY aware of what didn’t work, flip that around to what you do want. So, if you felt your last partner was “controlling”, you could say, “I’m looking for someone who values freedom (#1 on the ES) as I do.”

A certain amount of grieving must occur to process the emotions. Be gentle and enjoy exploring your “new” very different life. Reconnect to old and make new friends and hobbies/passions. Don’t look immediately for a partner as then the dreaded “rebound” relationships occur. Do the right thing and take some time to be curious about all that is possible. Most people look at what they lost instead of what they gained from their separation. When coming from lack you attract others in lack.

Good luck and please let us know how it goes!  


Tips to Practice Abundant Thinking

From my upcoming book, “Live It! Your Courageously Authentic Life” (Available on presale in September):

1. Decide and commit immediately to start to think abundant thoughts then do it. Put a penny in a jar for every positive thought you have (a forced easy saving method, hint spend the savings on something nice like a trip!)

2. Actually count (and record/journal) your numerous blessings right now, and start being grateful (Appreciation is #1 on the ES) for all the amazing things, people and experiences in your life.

3. Stop thinking and talking about what you believe you DON’T have. Instead, focus on creating the circumstances that you do want. Develop your passion, interests, knowledge, and skills in areas that will help you achieve more.

4. Replace “could’ve”, “should’ve” and “would’ve” with “I want” or “I will soon have”. Begin visualizing and feeling what it will be like to have it (tell your mind the “How” and “WHEN” is not your responsibility).

5. Don’t feel guilty (Guilt, #21 on the ES) for wanting / desiring. It is your personal choice to strive for happiness for yourself and others.

6. You can want, but NEVER create specific expectations. Having expectations leads to disappointment. Be “committed” yet not “attached” to a particular result or outcome.

7. Create zero expectations of what you will receive. Do not automatically assume that you will receive anything. Just know that anything and everything is possible and invite that abundance into your life. Be abundant (generous) with your emotions  and time with others, be appreciative, passionate, free and loving.

8. Be mentally prepared (but not focused) on worst-case scenarios. Know that in the right emotional state you can and will handle anything and everything the world (recall, like an ocean) will throw at you and this easily. If you meet your goals, it will add to the happiness you already enjoy; if not, it doesn’t matter because you are happy with what you already have.

9. Eliminate thinking the world owes you a living and that you deserve to receive what you want. Everything you receive in life is a gift. The world doesn’t owe you anything, but its abundance is capable of giving you anything and everything you desire. Give more, expect less.

10. Remember the universe is fair, you must give to receive but NEVER give EXPECTING to receive.

11. Stop feeling cheated, and like a victim (Powerlessness, #22 on the ES). This is a scarcity perspective. Take control and responsibility of your life (and by extension) your own happiness.

12. Know that your past does not equal your future, and your current unfavorable situation does not have to last if you choose to make it better. You are not your condition or circumstances, but YOU ARE your thoughts. Take 100% responsibility that your past thoughts and choices have lead exactly to where you are. Once you do you will feel in control of (and love) your life (empowerment, #1 on the ES).

13. Accept and plan to make mistakes. PERFECTIONISM equals and leads to PARALYSIS. Don’t beat yourself up when you do; regard mistakes as moments on your learning curve that will help take you to new heights. Learn from them and move on. Our hardest knocks teach us our most important lessons in life. We learn many more lessons from our failures than our successes, ask any sports team!

14. Think of a physical reminder that will help you keep your thoughts on track. Every time you feel you are drifting back to thoughts of scarcity, perform your little physical action to realign yourself with abundance. You could click your fingers, snap a rubber band on your wrist, or simply join your thumb to your forefinger as people do in meditation.

15.  Develop a mantra that you repeat every morning and evening or whenever you need a boost. An example I use is, “Every day and every in way the universe gives me more than I need!” 




A close friend sent me this, exactly when I needed it of course (the universe always provides)! Enjoy!

 Once upon a time there was a bunch of tiny frogs….. Who arranged a running competition.

 The goal was to reach the top of a very high tower

 A big crowd had gathered around the tower to see the race and cheer on the contestants. …

 The race began. Honestly, no one in crowd really believed that the tiny frogs would reach the top of the tower. You heard statements such as: “Oh, WAY too difficult!!’ 

‘”They will NEVER make it to the top” or “Not a chance that they will succeed.. The tower is too high” 

The tiny frogs began collapsing. One by one.Except for those, who in a fresh tempo, were climbing higher and higher…. The crowd continued to yell,  “It is too difficult!!! No one will make it!’ 

More tiny frogs got tired and gave up  But one continued higher and higher and higher….
This one wouldn’t give up!    At the end everyone else had given up climbing the tower. Except for the one tiny frog who, after a big effort, was the only one who reached the top

THEN all of the other tiny frogs naturally wanted to know how this one frog managed to do it?
A contestant asked the tiny frog how he had found the strength to succeed and reach the goal

It turned out…. That the winner was DEAF!!!! 

Never listen to other people’s tendencies to be negative or pessimistic. …   because they take your most wonderful dreams and wishes away from you — the ones you have in your heart!

Always think of the power words haveBecause everything you hear and read will affect your actions ThereforeALWAYS be…. POSITIVEAnd above allBe DEAF when people tell YOU that you cannot fulfill your dreams!

Always think :God (the Universe) and I can do this!”

Pass this message on to 5 ‘tiny frogs’ you care about. Give them some motivation!! !

 Most people walk in and out of your life……but FRIENDS Leave footprints in your heart.


Celebrating One Year of  “Living”!

            It is June already! Wow! It was exactly 1 year ago (with 18 recipients) when I committed to bring you Canada’s first and only “Weekly Law of Attraction” cup of inspiration. I launched last year under the name “Quantum Leap Living” and rebranded along with my new company name “2BFRANK Living”  in March of this year. Close to 200 of you receive it currently!

            I am very excited and proud of this accomplishment and aim to make this newsletter a great source of ideas and inspiration for another year! For those of you who are new(er) to the newsletter you can even search by topic (on the right side of the page under “Search by Topic” the 46 odd entries on my site at: http://www.quantumleapcoach.ca/blog.

 Remember: Success = Decision + Action + Persistence!

 8 Tips To Leverage the Law of Attraction in Your Small Business

        I gave my “Expand Your Business and Prosper” workshop with Soul City last Wednesday and thought I’d share the big picture points with you.

1)      Get clear on why you are in business and share that to everyone, develop a mission statement

2)      Solve people’s problems generously, uniquely and personally (be real)

3)      Follow your dream, heart and intuition, (vs your logic)

4)      Always come from abundance (not scarcity) and value what you do

5)      Build an email database and communicate regularly via newsletter (Mailchimp is free and excellent)

6)      Get organized, prioritize and minimize interruptions by chunking tasks

7)      Set SMART Goals (Specific, Measurable, Accountable, Resonant and Thrilling)

8)      Have fun and be authentic!



“Smooth” is For Scotch and Skin . Not Life!

             This week was full of contrasts (contrast is an Abraham Hicks term for “feeling down”, (it also signifies the differences between the emotions) that challenged me but ultimately made me stronger. One of the days was a classic, “Everything that can possibly wrong will” type of day. It culminated with the forgetting and loss of my cell phone.

           The next day was the complete opposite where “Everything I touched turned to gold” I feel I had 100% responsibility in both. When we are down (#9-#22 on the ES) we attract other “down ” thoughts, ideas and experiences. when we are up we attract great ideas people and circumstances.

            Most people’s objective/goal in life is to have a “smooth” life, one in which there isn’t much turbulence or massive up and down swings. What could be better than a smooth life right? Having this approach to life is impossible for the simple reason that life is filled with uncertainty, variety and complexities. To use a metaphor, life is like the ocean. An ocean is powerful, stable, serene, filled with abundance but also has nasty storms, currents and waves that can crush weak ships.

Those people who attempt (it’s impossible!) to live a “smooth life” without too many contrasts often end up much more often “crushed to pieces” by the ocean which doesn’t play by “their” rules.  Life can throw you a multi-million dollar lottery ticket, a surprise and wanted baby, a divorce, deadly disease and a friend’s passing all in the same breath all on a sunny day.

What to do? The first step is to be realistic that life is an ocean and that the objective is to live with full freedom, passion and joy (this means building a ship (life) able to maneuver and handle the turbulence. The only way to do that is to enjoy the voyage by living passionately. Realizing that the contrasts are what make life so breath taking. You couldn’t enjoy the highs if there weren’t lows. Life is also like the ocean in that it has cycles and seasons. I believe our passions and passion for life help us ride out the storms and enjoy the placid days equally. What will you do to prepare your “life” ship for the reality of life’s ocean? Realizing that life is a wild ride is half the battle!


3 Questions to Ask Yourself When Others Doubt Your Small Business

      In the theme of my upcoming seminar on “Expanding Your Business and Prosper” this week I share with you some questions to ask yourself when others doubt you (I know that never happens to YOU right? Haha!1.    How might you be doubting yourself?It’s always easier to blame others, the government, the economy, the competition than looking into ourselves. Focus on what you can control (what YOU do, not anyone outside you). Be honest with yourself, do you really believe in yourself and what you are doing? Is your mission powerful and inspirational for you and others. A weak mission statement can really hurt you and your business. If you doubt yourself so will others. Doubt is #13 on the ES (Above worry and below disappointment)

2.    What are your concerns about stepping out of your comfort zone and creating your business? It’s always helpful to get specific about how your thinking may create a mental environment of self doubt. Is your language weak, do you beat yourself up for mistakes? Running a small business requires vision and persistence, to ensure you have those you must really love what you are doing AND believe in it.

3.   On a Scale of 1-10 (1 Not Committed at all to 10 Fully Committed), How Committed are you to success in this business? Successrequires commitment. Before you see any results. This is a difficult concept for many new business owners, and is one of the key aspects of entrepreneurship that my clients and I work with in coaching.

By looking within, we usually make the connection between what’s showing up in “other people” and how it is always a mirror to what’s inside us. Once you truly “get” that YOU are responsible for everything happening, you get a rush of freedom moving like a deep cleansing breath through your body. “Aha, it was me all along!” When you realize this, you suddenly have choices about what you prefer to think, feel and attract. Remember, “thoughts that are emotionalized are magnetized!” Our new choices cause the Law of Attraction to match us up with entirely new people and experiences. Often, co-collaborators pop out of the woodwork.

As you consciously and deliberately change your vibration (a skill anyone can practice) you’re no longer a match to “doubt”. And surprise, others don’t doubt you!


Converting Scarcity Perspectives to Abundant Ones

Turning Scarcity Perspectives to Abundance!

      As I work diligently to bring you my next book, “Take It!” (Avail. Aug. 2012), I wanted to share part of a chapter where I reframe some scarcity perspectives into abundance perspectives. My whole idea here is that our interpretations of events are often EVEN MORE important than the events themselves. Enjoy!

Scarcity: “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”

Abundance: “There is more than enough money for great people and ideas when I allow!”

Scarcity: “You need to go to school to have any hope of getting a good job and security”

Abundance: “What creates security is passion for what you do, and the fact you know you are unique and can tap that uniqueness to help the world.”

Scarcity: “There’s not enough money to get you the present you really wanted.”

Abundance: “We gave you this gift coming from love and joy.”

Scarcity: “The plant closed, daddy lost his job, we have to sell the house”

Abundance: “The plant closed, daddy lost his job and now he gets to do what he really wants and we are also moving to make a new start!”

Scarcity: “Find a good woman/man soon as you can’t meet anyone when you are over the hill/ over 40.”

Abundance: “The perfect person is out there for you and will be there when you allow the time and space for them and really like and embrace your authentic, most brilliant self.”

Scarcity: “Be careful when you cross the street.”

Abundance: “Have a blast out there!”

Scarcity: “Don’t talk to strangers.”

Abundance: “The world is your family/playground!”

Scarcity: “Take care!”

Abundance: “Have an adventurous, exciting and empowering day!”

Scarcity: “Don’t say what you think at work, you may get fired!”

Abundance: “Be your true (authentic) self at work!”