Secular Shift

As the end of the year approaches, many people have asked me if I think the apocalypse is coming in a little over one month. Let me be clear here, I don’t have a crystal ball, and I’m not even 100% sure how to spell Nostradamus. Additionally, the Mayan calendar is Greek to me. That said, I do have some ideas.
Firstly, the “end-of-the world” thinking comes from extreme paranoia which is amplified and concentrated fear (#22 on the emotional scale). This is not a perspective we should spend much time in if we want to live happily and attract great thoughts, people and events.

Secondly, remember that focusing our energies and thoughts on things we don’t control is the definition of suffering. Additionally it is an excuse to stop focusing what we DO control, our thoughts and actions. No one else’s.

Most spiritual people I’ve discussed this with agree that what is actually happening (and it’s a very GOOD thing unlike what the media peddles) is that there is a secular shift in our thinking and living. Many of the existing institutions that so many have lived their lives by are simply not working for them anymore. A consumption-focused, media-driven and capitalistic lifestyle tends to be ego driven, unsustainable and supports false (base) values. There is a very large transition towards thinking in terms of sustainable environments, growth and ways of living. A consciousness shift is happening and accelerating, and it’s great.

Lastly, if it will be the end of the world, let’s make this last month count and live it as if it’s not a practice life (the theme of my new book, “Live It!”). I watched the movie “Seeking a Friend for the End of the World” which shows what happens when most rules and accountability are removed (in this case due to the impending asteroid about to destroy earth).  The movie shows both extremes (it is Hollywood after all!).
Forget the end of the world, it’s just another excuse to NOT focus on what you really want , desire and manifest for yourself.

A Comparison of Successful People and Unsuccessful People

As fall begins it’s time to refocus and be better at everything! A great friend and business partner sent me this and I completely concur, thanks Rabia! I’m unsure of the source. print it off so you can see it, mine is going on my vision wall! i’ve added the Emotional Scale emotions for clarity (remember any emotion above #8 feels good and attracts abundance, and below #8 feels bad attracts scarcity .

Successful People                                                                            Unsuccessful People
Have a sense of gratitude (appreciation, #1 on the ES)        Have a sense of entitlement
Forgive others                                                                                        Hold a grudge
Give others credit for their victories                                             Take all the credit for their victories
Accept responsibility for their failures                                         Blame (#15 on the ES) others for their failures
Compliment (appreciation, #1 ont he ES)                                    Criticize (#20 Jealousy on the ES)
Read (Empowerment, #1 on the ES) everyday                          Watch TV (scarcity perspective) everyday
Keep a journal                                                                                          Say they keep a journal but really don’t
Talk about ideas                                                                                      Talk about people
Want others to succeed (Hopefulness, #6 on the ES)             Secretly hope others fail
Share information and data                                                               Horde information and data
Keep a “to-be” list                                                                                  Don’t know what they want to be
Exude joy (Joy, #1 on the ES)                                                           Exude anger (Anger is #17 on the ES)
Keep a “to-do” project list  (Eagerness/Enthusiasm #3)       Fly by the seat of their pants
Set goals and develop life plans                                                        Never set goals (to avoid failing)
Continuously learn (always open)                                                  Think they know it all (always closed)
Embrace Change                                                                                     Fear change
Transformational perspective (“what can i contribute?”)     Transactional perspective (“what can i get?”)

Which are you mostly?

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MEDIA MADNESS!

I’m on a little bit of a rampage right now on the topic of media. I realize by writing the words I write here, that I am attracting and focusing on what I don’t want! So let’s call it a rant and then I will forever hold my pieces…I mean peace!

For those of you who have known me for a while, you know I made a life decision about 6 years ago to cut off all forms of “news” media. The idea behind the strategy was that, I am very sensitive person and the terrible stories, stayed with me long after I turned the TV off or put down the paper. I formulated that if I removed this MASSIVE NEGATIVE ENERGY BLAST from my life, my outlook on life, and the world at large would improve dramatically. So I stopped watching all news, reading all news and began listening to music only satellite radio stations (news-free!).

After 6 years on this “no news media kick”, I would like to report that my original thesis not only holds but I severely underestimated the damage caused by the nonsense called “news”. Some observations follow confirming my point:

  1. I was still aware of “need to know” life critical news via other people, people talk!
  2. I was amazed at how long “tragedies” like earthquakes in Haiti, tsunamis in the South Pacific, oil spill in the gulf stayed in the media excitement. The worst tragedies barely made it two weeks and were then forgotten
  3. I have learned that the typical media story ratio is 9 Negative stories for every 1 positive story  
  4. The average newscast is aimed at the reading comprehension level of a 10 year old! So you’re not exactly challenging your brain either!
  5. My personal view of life improved DRAMATICALLY! The media is a focused negative energy vibration beam that creates a (VERY NEGATIVELY) distorted view of the safety of the world. Think about it, they paint a fearful view of the world, don’t go there, you might get robbed/shot/molested (insert negative experience here _____________________)
  6. I’m never going back, I love my life, my attitude, my view of the world is that “there are opportunities everywhere!”.  Once you see the world this way, the law of Attraction will bring events and people to support that thesis. I don’t lock my door sometimes, I’m not afraid. By not being afraid, negative events always seem to miss me!
  7. Your body gets destroyed by acid that is caused by generalized fear. It’s different than a fear right in front of you. A fear in front of you can be acted  upon (example bear attacks!)

I’d love your feedback on this and, try a week without news, your Most Positive (Brilliant) Self will thank you!

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“To Have Lived, Loved and Lost….”

    1. I was reading in a business weekly magazine about a man in Indiana who had risen to super rich status through the acquisition of multiple businesses in many industries. The story was about his stratospheric and rapid rise to the upper echelons of society where he supported many local politicians with substantial contributions.
       This man was also into partying, he would fly in 20-30  Playboy bunnies or other models to his estate and party hardy! He had over 30 luxury classic cars, a yacht etc. Finally it was all a ponzi/pyramid type of scheme and he got caught and is now living at his sisters’ house and is awaiting trial. They ask him at the end would you make the same choices again, and he answered, “definitely, not”.
      So he got caught doing illegal things and is now deep trouble. Let’s ignore for the sake of my argument the fact what he did was illegal as most of us would agree that’s wrong. What we do weakly is when we “say good for him” BECAUSE we are jealous of what he lived! He made a bad choice obviously but at least he dreamed and lived big, not playing small.
      What fascinates me is the angle that he lived for at least 5 years the life of opulence many (openly or secretly) dream of living but never will. Here is the question I posit to you:
      “Is it better to have lived like a king for a few years and then like a pauper, or is it better to just have an average and regular life but never have the crazy highs and lows this gentleman experienced?”
      I keep flipping back and forth but mostly end up on the side of really living full out (without crime of course!) as I have done with my (100% admittedly) unstable life path. Remember, I moved to California on a wing and a prayer just over 2 years ago!
      It harkens back to the classic adage, “Tis better to have loved and lost / Than never to have loved at all” by Alfred Lord Tenyson. Many people just decide it’s too much pain to love and risk our heart again and decide to either settle with a partner they don’t really love or never risk again.
       Life is about the connections we make and the growth we experience on whatever path we chose. Remember, “not choosing” is a choice and usually a poor one as it does not reward with any pleasure, or pain or experience. By not choosing, we refuse to go towards what our Most Brilliant Life calls us to  become. This “not going/risking” feels safe and protective but it is a lie and any time we don’t go to what we are called to become we die inside and shrivel up like a raisin (no offence to my good friend the raisin!).
       I may be in the minority, but I say live that life, take those chances, fall on your face, love, cry, laugh because that is what it is to be alive. It’s who you become when you keep getting back up and living a full life.
      THIS IS NOT A PRACTICE LIFE! LIVE IT LIKE YOU MEAN IT!
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This Week : What Happened to Manners 1 and 2?

This week I will allow myself a short rant and rampage of frustration as I feel this needs to be said.

It has become increasingly clear to me lately that all this technology that “connects” us actually is creating a generation and world of surface and short term thinkers/doers.
Part 1
One of the first casualties to me seems to be manners and etiquette! I don’t know how many times a day someone is on their phone or listening to their I- ____ (insert device here) right in front of me in a doorway. They proceed to barely slip through the door not even looking back to see if maybe there is another person behind. So you have 500 friends on Facebook, did none of them ever talk about proper manners? I guess not,  integrity is a lost art form.

Here’s why this annoys me, not  for the reason you think I bet you!

It annoys me because it means so many other people are either like that or have given up even trying to educate the young people of today. It bugs me because that means that people either don’t EVEN KNOW what good manners are or worse they are so burned out in their life that they don’t care anymore. That would be sad. I hope I’m making too big a deal here, sadly I don’t think I am.

Part 2:  
Second example, driving. I don’t know how many times I’m waiting on the way to an off-ramp, and we are all waiting patiently for the line to move when a car comes cuts in front of everyone else and expects to get away with it. Two days ago on my motorcycle, I put my lion suit on just as it happened. The cab driver cuts in right in front of the car ahead of me. I cut ahead and tap on the window and say stop that! The car next to me gives me the thumbs up and I feel a small victory in that at least I spoke up! It felt good to express my indignation. I think it really gets my goat when someone thinks they are better than others when we all are unique and better than EVERYONE ELSE in the world at ONE thing! So we’re all equal.

Next time you see an act of manner-less selfishness, I dare you to set the person straight in some way, the world will be a better place if we all care just a lot more about this world!

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Precocious Summer and Womanhood

Precocious Summer and Womanhood

         Last week in one of my daily jaunts in the park (with my curious canine partner) it was a beautifully and unseasonably warm mid-March day. As I was jogging in the trails 3 scantily clad women came into my field of vision. As I approached and passed them, I was shocked to realize they were not even teenagers, they might have been 11 or 12 years young. They looked ready to hit a nightclub or dance around a pole somewhere.

I don’t have any kids of my own and am probably going to say something quite ignorant here, but damn the torpedoes, here goes anyway! What kind of world (media-fuelled, inspired and motivated) produces such a glaring attack on decent values and sensibilities? A world where our values have been corrupted, co-opted and hijacked. I consider myself very open-mindedand non-traditional in my views, and still I was shocked. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying we lock pre-teen girls in the basement or anything (as anything you push against or repress usually mutates to something worse, ask the Catholic church).

I get to see most of these same young ladies (I wish that gentlemanly term returned) about 7 years later as they enter my College Business Presentation classes. I must continually remind them that they want to be judged on the amount of personality, intelligence and unique quirkiness they bring and not the amount of skin they show. Additionally, it is not a coincidence their self-esteem is very low as they to emulate an impossible body image example from Hollywood.

I wish I had a solution, but I don’t. As long as we live in a consumeristic society that finds it’s moral compass bearings from pop music, movies and entertainment (fear and lack-based) this type of superficial value-related behavior is here to stay. My best advice: Set a good example yourself, that’s all you can do. I’d love your comments on this.

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